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October 07, 2010

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Jules

You are not a single mom. You are single and you are a mom. Just like you said-your kids have a dad.

I am a single mom. My daughter does not have a father and I'm the only one supporting her. I understand the "poverty/struggle" association-usually single moms are young women that became mothers before they had a chance at education, etc. I'm a single mom by CHOICE-meaning in my thirties I decided to do it on my own.

You are a mom. Period. Why do you need to explain yourself more? And if there's any two-word phrase that needs to be stricken from the English language (if you can call it that) is Baby Mama. As far as I'm concerned that phrase is attributed to women who have no common sense and/or self-esteem to use birth control (aka the new term for teenage mothers!)

simply heidi

Those who know you already know what you are. There are no neat labels to describe you to those who don't.
Try this: "Hi, I'm Amanda, and I'm simply complicated. Just like you."

Krystal

What about - One Kick Ass Mama :)

Siera

There is a stigma attached to it for sure. Not every single parent it the atypical stigma attached to it. Ugh.

Sharla

I was a single parent for many years and to me it was a badge of courage, strength, and determination, even if government cheese and poverty were included. But ya, I get your point. Be who you want to be and project that--don't accept the projection the other way around.

Rhi

I was one of two kids with divorced parents at my Catholic grade school in Seattle. I had no idea what it meant at the time, but I remember hearing, "SHE HAS A SINGLE MOM," in reference to me a lot. So, yeah. I don't love that term either.

Melissa

What about 'mom'. Just like the rest of us.

I know...it's wishful thinking on my part to think that society will ever stop labeling 'types' of mommas.

Rachael

I agree - you should be able to just stop at Mom! Or how about "Supreme Motherly Being"?

Abby

I've never thought that "single mom" meant any of those things...maybe because I was raised by an awesome single mom and single dad?

Don't worry...every parent carries some label. Do you really care what label others put on you?

LizP

To echo the others, what about just "mom". Why do we have to put modifiers in front of it? You're an awesome mom and your marital status shouldn't play a part in it. :-)

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Melissa

I got it! (Yes, I am still ruminating on a post three days later, what of it?) How about 'Solo mom' I mean, if you have to put a modifier on mom, this one fits the bill at least decently.

brigette

Who the hell do you think you are? I do not know how it is ok for you to label single mothers when you are behaving like a 16 year old in heat. I feel sorry for the embarrasment that your ex-husband and children will have(when they are old enough)read this. You are a crappy excuse for a mother, been handed everything on a silver spoon and to read your blod makes me sick. You are so holier than thou and you are going online dating? Give me a break! Desperate!!! PUKE.

Rona

I dont think the person above got the jist of your blog post. lol Anyway, I understand somewhat where you are coming from. I am a single mom in all regards no dad in the picture, etc, etc. However the term "single mom' seems to have taken on some kind of desperate, needy tone that is just not always true. Most of the single moms I know are strong awesome women. Not these pitiful creatures that we have been made out to be at times. We don't always need a handout and we are not waiting for a man to come save us.


Anyway im a stalker of your blog have been for a few years. Good luck on your new adventures. :)

single mom

Thanks for the Article, It brightens up my day! No worries though sweetheart you can do it!

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